The cost of love – even for a courtesan – is sometimes too high

Harriette_Wilson00I will open my post today in Harriette’s words, ‘Things went on worse and worse at Badminton, (the place of Lord Worcester’s parents’ home) and I was now delighted that they did so, being altogether most miserably tired of the Beaufort story.

So let’s get back to the tale of the demise of Harriette’s and Lord Worcester affair. But as usual here is the quick recap of the history of this series of posts for anyone joining Harriette’s story today, as always, if you’ve read it before skip to the end of italics.

In 1825 Harriette Wilson, a courtesan, published a series of stories as her memoirs in a British broad sheet paper. The Regency gentleman’s clubs were a buzz, waiting to see the next names mentioned each week. While barriers had to be set up outside the shop of her publisher, Stockdale, to hold back the disapproving mob.

Harriette was born Harriette Debochet, she chose the name Harriette Wilson as her professional name, in the same way Emma Hart, who I’ve blogged about previously, had changed her name. Unlike Emma, it isn’t known why or when Harriette changed her name.

She was one of nine surviving children. Her father was a watchmaker and her mother a stocking repairer, and both were believed to be from illegitimate origin.

Three of Harriette’s sisters also became courtesans. Amy, Fanny and Sophia (who I have written about before). So the tales I am about to begin in my blogs will include some elements from their lives too.

For a start you’ll need to understand the world of the 19th Century Courtesan. It was all about show and not just about sex. The idle rich of the upper class aspired to spending time in the company of courtesans, it was fashionable, the thing to do.

You were envied if you were linked to one of the most popular courtesans or you discovered a new unknown beauty to be admired by others.

Courtesans were also part of the competitive nature of the regency period too, gambling was a large element of the life of the idle rich and courtesans were won and lost and bartered and fought for.

So courtesans obviously aspired to be one of the most popular, and to achieve it they learnt how to play music, read widely, so they could debate, and tried to shine in personality too. They wanted to be a favoured ’original’.

The eccentric and outspoken was admired by gentlemen who liked to consort with boxers and jockeys, and coachmen, so courtesans did not aim for placid but were quite happy to insult and mock men who courted them, and demand money for any small favour.

Last week we left Harriette under pressure to relinquish all of Lord Worcester’s love letters, particularly any promising to marry her. Harriette’s answer to this pressure, was to take all his letters to a solicitor. The solicitor’s answer, after reading all the ‘repeated and solemn promises of marriage,’ spanning over two years was to tell Harriette ‘I conceive the damages, if he should now declare off, would be rated, at least twenty-thousand pounds!’ – which was a lot at a time a house could be bought for a hundred pounds or less.

Harriette told Lord Worcester’s father’s bully boy this, and even though he agreed to put an offer to the Duke of Beaufort, Harriette refused to negotiate through him. Instead she wrote to the Duke Beaufort herself and delivered the letter to his town house, by hand. She says she merely gave him the letters back. With and explanation claiming she meant no harm.

But even as she gave those letters back, Harriette tells us Lord Worcester is writing more, and visiting her twice a week in town, or in a village half way between London and Brighton, while his parents, and his mother’s young male friends are still seeking to persuade him to have nothing more to do with her.

Then one day Harriette received a letter that confused her. ‘Such an incoherent scrawl I never had known him, nor anybody else, write before! It was all over wives and angels, and eternal constancy, and eternal despair!!’ She said it was blotched as though he had cried over it, and what it was trying to tell her was that he was being posted abroad as an aide-de-camp to the Duke of Wellington, under the specific request of his father.

Harriette actually says, ‘I knew not, nor would have suspected, how much Worcester’s loss would affect me, until there was no remedy, and my case desperate,’  He’d asked her to go with him, but she said she knew she would not be allowed to go. ‘I burst into a violent flood of tears. It struck me very forcibly, that Worcester deserved all my devoted attachment, and that I had no been half grateful enough to him. That he would lose his life in Spain I felt convinced and that since his regiment remained in England I should have his blood on my head.’

‘After a second flood of tears!! on went the red pelisse and charming white hat, and, in less than half an hour, behold me standing at the Duke of Beaufort’s street door.’

It sounds very unlike the Harriette we’ve been reading about the last few months, either she really did have a conscience buried somewhere inside her, or she finally realised any chance of becoming a future duchess were now nearly written off.

Here’s one key thing I’ve learnt from Harriette’s memoirs though. The door was not answered by a butler, as we all say in our historical romances, it was attended by a porter, she uses this term in several points in her memoirs, I don’t use it in my books, it would just confuse people, but when you think about it, it makes sense the most important male servant would not have stood near the door all day.

Harriette describes how when the porter opens the door to her, he looks at her suspiciously as she has come without a maid or footman, and she says he looked at her as though judging the Duke’s morality, she assumed he wondered if she was about to declare a child by the Duke. He then challenged her asking if she was certain it was the Duke himself she wanted to see. But when she gave him a note, asking the Duke if he’d speak to her, and asked him to take it the Duke, then her eyes flooded with tears, he gave in and agreed to take it.

Harriette feared one or two of the footmen would put her back outside the door as she waited while the Porter handed the letter to another servant to take to the duke.

Harriette was left to wait in the grand hall for a quarter hour, sitting with her handkerchief to her eyes and looking at the floor. But then the Duke came down to the hall himself, and actually apologised for leaving her waiting in the hall. He took her into the dining room to talk and there Harriette says she burst into tears and so he fetched her a chair.

She says she then offered to do all she could to end her affair with Lord Worcester if he would not send his son to war because of her. His answer is that it is too late now to change it, and then he began to lecture her although not sternly, on how she should never have hoped to marry Lord Worcester, saying such unequal marriages seldom worked.

She still claims she had no intention of it. The Duke agreed to shake her hand at the end of the conversation (I feel that might be a little like Jesus turning his left cheek. It had some other meaning. Turning your left cheek was an insult to the person who slapped you not a gesture of submission, perhaps offering her hand was forcing him to treat her more like an equal). He also fetched her a glass of water himself before she left, and walked her to the door, although he called for his porter to open it.

The conclusion was that Lord Worcester was to go to war, and yet he insisted that before he left he was allowed to come to London and spend two full weeks with Harriette, spending the whole of every day with her, despite his mother using her servant who was Lord Worcester’s man servant to do her best to interrupt them. ‘My Lord, Will Haught would say through the key-hole of our bedroom, my lord the Duchess desired me to tell you that she has a great deal of business to settle with you today, about, in short, about all manner of things my Lord.

Very well, that is enough, Will. His Lordship would answer.

In another hour his torment would knock again.

My Lord, Her Grace looked rather displeased this morning. The Duchess was almost in a passion.

You be damned! Go along! Was the elegant reply.

My Lord (in another hour), ‘you see I’m tired of standing in this here room, and the Duchess this morning – I assure you my Lord – your Lordship knows what I mean, Her Grace had got a very particular look in her face; you know my Lord, how she looks when she’s vexed liked, and takes on, you know, my Lord.

Go to hell! Vociferated Worcester, from the emergency of the case although he had by no means the habit of swearing.

I’m going my Lord, answered Will Haught.

I had to share the exchange she recorded, it’s just such a fabulous window into the past.

Anyway, in that two weeks it was all planned for Harriette to go with him, they had even hired a female servant for Harriette, but Lord Worcester was ill with worry, and when they rationalized it Harriette would have only been able to travel as far as Lisbon, and if she was to stay in Lisbon and not see him, she might as well stay in London and not see him. Lord Worcester also admitted she would make a coward of him, because he knew he would not be able to go to war if he feared she were ill or lonely and stuck in Lisbon.

The Marquis of Worcester. 7th Duke of Beaufort. in later life

The Marquis of Worcester. 7th Duke of Beaufort. in later life

So instead they parted under the agreement. ‘but in twelve months from the day I leave you, supposing I am not on my road to join you in England, remember you are to come to me.’

Lord Worcester had asked his father to settle money on Harriette, before he left, a quarterly annuity, but as soon as he was gone, his father sent his bully boy back to agree a single sum, that would ensure Harriette left Lord Worcester alone and for the rest of her life. There is a little more to their story, but I’ll end the post today, with Harriette’s reflections as she writes this piece.

‘being now in the daily habit of meeting this profligate Marquis of Worcester about Paris, with the sister of his late wife, and seeing him look as if he did not even know me by sight, while I often forget, until he has passed, where or when I have seen that man before, the face being familiar, and perhaps the name even forgotten – Oh, by the by! I say to myself, if I meet him a second time in the same morning, now I think of it, that long-nosed, tall man is Worcester.’

Sad to think his complete devotion died so flatly in the end.

Jane Lark is a writer of authentic, passionate and emotional love stories.

See the side bar for details of Jane’s books, and Jane’s website www.janelark.co.uk to learn more about Jane. Or click  ‘like’ on Jane’s Facebook  page to see photo’s and learn historical facts from the Georgian, Regency and Victorian eras, which Jane publishes there. You can also follow Jane on twitter at @janelark

Harriette’s hopes and Lord Worcester’s love, begin tumbling towards a terrible end

Harriette_Wilson00The moment Harriette was scene in disguise having visited Lord Worcester, was perhaps the moment his parents believed her truly capable of duplicity and permanently entrapping their son, because after this the relationship between Harriette and Lord Worcester begins showing its strain and starts to unravel.

But before I tell you what happens next as usual for anyone reading this series of posts for the first time today, here’s the background. And if you’ve already read it, read on from after the italics.

In 1825 Harriette Wilson, a courtesan, published a series of stories as her memoirs in a British broad sheet paper. The Regency gentleman’s clubs were a buzz, waiting to see the next names mentioned each week. While barriers had to be set up outside the shop of her publisher, Stockdale, to hold back the disapproving mob.

Harriette was born Harriette Debochet, she chose the name Harriette Wilson as her professional name, in the same way Emma Hart, who I’ve blogged about previously, had changed her name. Unlike Emma, it isn’t known why or when Harriette changed her name.

She was one of nine surviving children. Her father was a watchmaker and her mother a stocking repairer, and both were believed to be from illegitimate origin.

Three of Harriette’s sisters also became courtesans. Amy, Fanny and Sophia (who I have written about before). So the tales I am about to begin in my blogs will include some elements from their lives too.

For a start you’ll need to understand the world of the 19th Century Courtesan. It was all about show and not just about sex. The idle rich of the upper class aspired to spending time in the company of courtesans, it was fashionable, the thing to do.

You were envied if you were linked to one of the most popular courtesans or you discovered a new unknown beauty to be admired by others.

Courtesans were also part of the competitive nature of the regency period too, gambling was a large element of the life of the idle rich and courtesans were won and lost and bartered and fought for.

So courtesans obviously aspired to be one of the most popular, and to achieve it they learnt how to play music, read widely, so they could debate, and tried to shine in personality too. They wanted to be a favoured ’original’.

The eccentric and outspoken was admired by gentlemen who liked to consort with boxers and jockeys, and coachmen, so courtesans did not aim for placid but were quite happy to insult and mock men who courted them, and demand money for any small favour.

Harriette tells us that when Lord Worcester wrote to her to say she had been seen in unladylike dress near Oxford, that at that time, there were two young men staying with his mother. ‘Her Grace of Beaufort, who is known to have always encouraged a very motherly kindness of feeling towards you men, particularly when they were well looking. Perhaps she wanted them for her daughters; and yet that beauty soon fades, is the cry of most moral mammas.’

Oh, do you think Harriette is claiming Lord Worcester’s mother immoral? She is probably just being a little vicious, a lot of water has passed under the bridge between this moment in Harriette’s life and when she actually wrote these words. But there was certainly several older women of the era who entertained young men in their homes, and before their husbands. Lord Byron was one of those who willing accepted such offers.

Harriette tells us a little later in the piece that one of the two young men noted to be extremely handsome, was Mr Meyler, he was Lord Worcester’s friend at Christchurch, and Lord Worcester had introduced him to his mother.  He had only recently become of age, and was not gentry, he had money from a sugar plantation bought by a previous generation. Harriette’s aristocratic friends had nicknamed him the sugar-baker. Harriette says he was a favourite of the Duchess and always agreed with whatever she said. So of course both young men were noted in Worcester’s letters to thoroughly and crudely denounce her. Meyler so crudely, that he was ordered to never speak of Harriette.

Lord Worcester recounted some of his less crude words, ‘it would be impossible for any man, in his right senses, to be in love with that woman Harriette Wilson; she may have been better once; but she is now in ill health, spoiled by flattery, and altogether the most disgusting style of woman I know.’

Harriette’s response… ‘If, said I, one day to Fanny’ (her sister), ‘if all this abuse of me could be reconciled to good taste in a gentleman, and this Meyler is really so handsome, it would be worthwhile changing his dislike into love.’

Well if you have read my earlier posts on Harriette, we kind of knew she was not going to take that lying down, didn’t we. No, here is a contest to be won. So while Lord Worcester is still in the clutches of his parents, having her name constantly denigrated to him, Harriette starts asking all her male friends about Mr Meyler to find out if he is truly good-looking and what his character is like.

The next step in the story – which as Harriette didn’t actually write her memoirs in order may have come before the above, or perhaps she had just sensed she’d lost Worcester for good. Or possibly even his money had just stopped arriving. But anyway however she must have realised she was losing Lord Worcester and any hope of a happy ending.  And his father then made that bluntly clear – he sent a man known for doing dirty work for the nobility to call on her.

He asked for all the letters Lord Worcester had ever written to her promising marriage, back.

Jane Lark is a writer of authentic, passionate and emotional love stories.

See the side bar for details of Jane’s books, and Jane’s website www.janelark.co.uk to learn more about Jane. Or click  ‘like’ on Jane’s Facebook  page to see photo’s and learn historical facts from the Georgian, Regency and Victorian eras, which Jane publishes there. You can also follow Jane on twitter at @janelark

I’ll let you know what happens next, next week.