Harriette’s games of cat and mouse with men, she is so much better at playing the cat

Last week we left the Regency courtesan, Harriette Wilson, playing games on the men who had spent the previous twelve months, and more, condemning her. So let’s get on with her story and see how these games pan out. But before we do, as usual, for anyone joining this series of posts today, here’s the background, and for anyone who’s been following and already read them, as always pick up the story from the end of the italics.

In 1825 Harriette Wilson, a courtesan, published a series of stories as her memoirs in a British broad sheet paper. The Regency gentleman’s clubs were a buzz, waiting to see the next names mentioned each week. While barriers had to be set up outside the shop of her publisher, Stockdale, to hold back the disapproving mob.

Harriette was born Harriette Debochet, she chose the name Harriette Wilson as her professional name, in the same way Emma Hart, who I’ve blogged about previously, had changed her name. Unlike Emma, it isn’t known why or when Harriette changed her name.

She was one of nine surviving children. Her father was a watchmaker and her mother a stocking repairer, and both were believed to be from illegitimate origin.

Three of Harriette’s sisters also became courtesans. Amy, Fanny and Sophia (who I have written about before). So the tales I am about to begin in my blogs will include some elements from their lives too.

For a start you’ll need to understand the world of the 19th Century Courtesan. It was all about show and not just about sex. The idle rich of the upper class aspired to spending time in the company of courtesans, it was fashionable, the thing to do.

You were envied if you were linked to one of the most popular courtesans or you discovered a new unknown beauty to be admired by others.

Courtesans were also part of the competitive nature of the regency period too, gambling was a large element of the life of the idle rich and courtesans were won and lost and bartered and fought for.

So courtesans obviously aspired to be one of the most popular, and to achieve it they learnt how to play music, read widely, so they could debate, and tried to shine in personality too. They wanted to be a favoured ’original’.

The eccentric and outspoken was admired by gentlemen who liked to consort with boxers and jockeys, and coachmen, so courtesans did not aim for placid but were quite happy to insult and mock men who courted them, and demand money for any small favour.

Well, Harriette’s amusement continued when she left the theatre one night, in search of a hackney-coach, and saw the young man who had been known to condemn her to her former lover’s parents, Mr Meyler, apparently waiting ‘slyly’ outside, near the Haymarket entrance looking as if he wished to speak with her.

Harriette’s comment. ‘And Harriette Wilson had refused to become Marchioness of Worcester, to be waited for, in a corner, by a vile sugar-baker! Oh! Ye Gods! I wonder I did not drop down dead on the spot! But, as Lord Byron says, There is no spirit now a days!

Meyler’s bueautiful dimple as he smiled on me, did not disarm me in the least.

“Mr Meyler” said I, en passant. “It is not necessary for you to conceal yourself in corners, in order to acknowledge me, and for this very simple reason, I wish to be allowed to decline your acquaintance.’

When Mr Meyler begged to know why, Harriette cut him, with a declaration that she found him a ‘dead bore’, she then climbed into the hackney with her friend leaving him in the street.

A moment later though, he ran after their carriage, shouting for the coachman to stop, and when he did, Harriette claims Mr Meyler begged to be allowed to sit in their carriage for a moment, ‘while he made his apologies and explained things.’

Obviously seeking to make the man feel even lower in her opinion, Harriette let him know it was unnecessary, implying she did not care at all for excuses, and then asked him to detain them no longer.

Mr Meyler, apparently turned to Harriette’s friend. “Mrs Johnstone,” said Mr Meyler, addressing Julia, beseechingly, “pray intercede for me. Do pray allow me to speak to you five minutes. You may put me down again at White’s, in St James’s Street, if you are tired of me.”

As much of a sucker for a pretty young face as Harriette, Julia said it would do no harm to let him in, and opened the door without Harriette’s agreement, so Harriette claims. Mr Meyler then pleaded that if only Harriette would allow it, he would be most ‘desirous’ of the opportunity to escort and protect her at the next opera ‘or anywhere else’, where he would be ‘proud’ to acknowledge her.

I think this whole piece was written by Harriette to make this man cringe, and how much of it is truth and how much Harriette’s form of half fiction is hard to tell, but she makes the man sound more and more desperate to please her. Though when I read on, the story starts to become more and more unbelievable, and Harritte’s friend Julia was one of those who when the memoirs were published called them a pack of lies. I can’t help but think this is one of the scenes she may have been speaking about…

Harriette says that Julie was suddenly afraid she’d lost some money in their opera box, and Mr Meyler immediately offered to run back and look for it if they stopped the carriage and waited. They did, but while he was gone, Julia, who was pregnant at the time, felt sick, and asked to drive on, and Harriette, oddly, says she decided to climb out of the carriage and wait alone in the street beside a watchman for Mr Meyler – do you see what I mean, the story does not sound at all like Harriette.

Anyway when Mr Meyler returns Harriette says she had covered her head, so no one would recognise her standing alone in the street, and he assumes she is a street prostitute pushing her away and saying ‘not tonight’. Now the Harriette I know would be disgusted by this assumption, but she says not a word about that. Only that he made another apology for it.

“I declared that, since the evening was so warm and moonlight, I proposed walking home, if he insisted on accompanying me; and we actually walked, full dressed, from Pall Mall to Camden Town! During which said long walk, Meyler endeavoured to make himself as amiable as possible, and took his leave at my door, without teasing me for anything except permission to call on me, some morning.” Now this to me, sounds like Harriette, and this is purely my assumption, but I think the whole thing with Julia was made up so she could write about the walk home they really shared without admitting how that walk home came about… Reading between the lines. But don’t you wish you knew the truth? I do.

Anyway, Harriette says rather than upset Lord Worcester whom she was still officially contractually bound to, she refused to meet Mr Meyler at her own home, but said he might call on her at Julia’s. I think we are talking semantics Harriette 😉 . Only to then withdraw her offer and leave him sitting in Julia’s drawing room waiting to see if Harriette would show, even though she had already written to him and told him she would not.

Then as he’d failed to gain Harriette’s attention, he resorted to more hardened attempts and forced his way into her house when she refused to admit him, and even came upstairs and tried her sitting room door which she’d locked, proving himself boorish and disrespectful once more.

I sort of believe this picture of Mr Meyler too, from all she says about him, he was not bred into the nobility, and perhaps had never played the game of respect the courtesan’s demanded. When I continue telling you how his and Harriette’s story unfolds, which they definitely did have a story to tell, he also frequently displays a hot-headed nature. But for this week, let me leave you with Harriette’s response to his bullish attempt to break into her room.

Miss Wilson, presents her compliments to Mr Meyler, is under the necessity of informing him that she requires a little more respect than he seems disposed to show towards her. Mr Meyler might have taken it for granted that, if she had been at home this morning, and disposed to receive his visits, she should have been denied to him.

Camden Town

Oh Harriette, I cannot help but think you are sending some message to the man through this text, why say you signed it Camden Town, did he condemn where you lived? Or did you live in a better area than him?  The girl does make me laugh.

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The cost of love – even for a courtesan – is sometimes too high

Harriette_Wilson00I will open my post today in Harriette’s words, ‘Things went on worse and worse at Badminton, (the place of Lord Worcester’s parents’ home) and I was now delighted that they did so, being altogether most miserably tired of the Beaufort story.

So let’s get back to the tale of the demise of Harriette’s and Lord Worcester affair. But as usual here is the quick recap of the history of this series of posts for anyone joining Harriette’s story today, as always, if you’ve read it before skip to the end of italics.

In 1825 Harriette Wilson, a courtesan, published a series of stories as her memoirs in a British broad sheet paper. The Regency gentleman’s clubs were a buzz, waiting to see the next names mentioned each week. While barriers had to be set up outside the shop of her publisher, Stockdale, to hold back the disapproving mob.

Harriette was born Harriette Debochet, she chose the name Harriette Wilson as her professional name, in the same way Emma Hart, who I’ve blogged about previously, had changed her name. Unlike Emma, it isn’t known why or when Harriette changed her name.

She was one of nine surviving children. Her father was a watchmaker and her mother a stocking repairer, and both were believed to be from illegitimate origin.

Three of Harriette’s sisters also became courtesans. Amy, Fanny and Sophia (who I have written about before). So the tales I am about to begin in my blogs will include some elements from their lives too.

For a start you’ll need to understand the world of the 19th Century Courtesan. It was all about show and not just about sex. The idle rich of the upper class aspired to spending time in the company of courtesans, it was fashionable, the thing to do.

You were envied if you were linked to one of the most popular courtesans or you discovered a new unknown beauty to be admired by others.

Courtesans were also part of the competitive nature of the regency period too, gambling was a large element of the life of the idle rich and courtesans were won and lost and bartered and fought for.

So courtesans obviously aspired to be one of the most popular, and to achieve it they learnt how to play music, read widely, so they could debate, and tried to shine in personality too. They wanted to be a favoured ’original’.

The eccentric and outspoken was admired by gentlemen who liked to consort with boxers and jockeys, and coachmen, so courtesans did not aim for placid but were quite happy to insult and mock men who courted them, and demand money for any small favour.

Last week we left Harriette under pressure to relinquish all of Lord Worcester’s love letters, particularly any promising to marry her. Harriette’s answer to this pressure, was to take all his letters to a solicitor. The solicitor’s answer, after reading all the ‘repeated and solemn promises of marriage,’ spanning over two years was to tell Harriette ‘I conceive the damages, if he should now declare off, would be rated, at least twenty-thousand pounds!’ – which was a lot at a time a house could be bought for a hundred pounds or less.

Harriette told Lord Worcester’s father’s bully boy this, and even though he agreed to put an offer to the Duke of Beaufort, Harriette refused to negotiate through him. Instead she wrote to the Duke Beaufort herself and delivered the letter to his town house, by hand. She says she merely gave him the letters back. With and explanation claiming she meant no harm.

But even as she gave those letters back, Harriette tells us Lord Worcester is writing more, and visiting her twice a week in town, or in a village half way between London and Brighton, while his parents, and his mother’s young male friends are still seeking to persuade him to have nothing more to do with her.

Then one day Harriette received a letter that confused her. ‘Such an incoherent scrawl I never had known him, nor anybody else, write before! It was all over wives and angels, and eternal constancy, and eternal despair!!’ She said it was blotched as though he had cried over it, and what it was trying to tell her was that he was being posted abroad as an aide-de-camp to the Duke of Wellington, under the specific request of his father.

Harriette actually says, ‘I knew not, nor would have suspected, how much Worcester’s loss would affect me, until there was no remedy, and my case desperate,’  He’d asked her to go with him, but she said she knew she would not be allowed to go. ‘I burst into a violent flood of tears. It struck me very forcibly, that Worcester deserved all my devoted attachment, and that I had no been half grateful enough to him. That he would lose his life in Spain I felt convinced and that since his regiment remained in England I should have his blood on my head.’

‘After a second flood of tears!! on went the red pelisse and charming white hat, and, in less than half an hour, behold me standing at the Duke of Beaufort’s street door.’

It sounds very unlike the Harriette we’ve been reading about the last few months, either she really did have a conscience buried somewhere inside her, or she finally realised any chance of becoming a future duchess were now nearly written off.

Here’s one key thing I’ve learnt from Harriette’s memoirs though. The door was not answered by a butler, as we all say in our historical romances, it was attended by a porter, she uses this term in several points in her memoirs, I don’t use it in my books, it would just confuse people, but when you think about it, it makes sense the most important male servant would not have stood near the door all day.

Harriette describes how when the porter opens the door to her, he looks at her suspiciously as she has come without a maid or footman, and she says he looked at her as though judging the Duke’s morality, she assumed he wondered if she was about to declare a child by the Duke. He then challenged her asking if she was certain it was the Duke himself she wanted to see. But when she gave him a note, asking the Duke if he’d speak to her, and asked him to take it the Duke, then her eyes flooded with tears, he gave in and agreed to take it.

Harriette feared one or two of the footmen would put her back outside the door as she waited while the Porter handed the letter to another servant to take to the duke.

Harriette was left to wait in the grand hall for a quarter hour, sitting with her handkerchief to her eyes and looking at the floor. But then the Duke came down to the hall himself, and actually apologised for leaving her waiting in the hall. He took her into the dining room to talk and there Harriette says she burst into tears and so he fetched her a chair.

She says she then offered to do all she could to end her affair with Lord Worcester if he would not send his son to war because of her. His answer is that it is too late now to change it, and then he began to lecture her although not sternly, on how she should never have hoped to marry Lord Worcester, saying such unequal marriages seldom worked.

She still claims she had no intention of it. The Duke agreed to shake her hand at the end of the conversation (I feel that might be a little like Jesus turning his left cheek. It had some other meaning. Turning your left cheek was an insult to the person who slapped you not a gesture of submission, perhaps offering her hand was forcing him to treat her more like an equal). He also fetched her a glass of water himself before she left, and walked her to the door, although he called for his porter to open it.

The conclusion was that Lord Worcester was to go to war, and yet he insisted that before he left he was allowed to come to London and spend two full weeks with Harriette, spending the whole of every day with her, despite his mother using her servant who was Lord Worcester’s man servant to do her best to interrupt them. ‘My Lord, Will Haught would say through the key-hole of our bedroom, my lord the Duchess desired me to tell you that she has a great deal of business to settle with you today, about, in short, about all manner of things my Lord.

Very well, that is enough, Will. His Lordship would answer.

In another hour his torment would knock again.

My Lord, Her Grace looked rather displeased this morning. The Duchess was almost in a passion.

You be damned! Go along! Was the elegant reply.

My Lord (in another hour), ‘you see I’m tired of standing in this here room, and the Duchess this morning – I assure you my Lord – your Lordship knows what I mean, Her Grace had got a very particular look in her face; you know my Lord, how she looks when she’s vexed liked, and takes on, you know, my Lord.

Go to hell! Vociferated Worcester, from the emergency of the case although he had by no means the habit of swearing.

I’m going my Lord, answered Will Haught.

I had to share the exchange she recorded, it’s just such a fabulous window into the past.

Anyway, in that two weeks it was all planned for Harriette to go with him, they had even hired a female servant for Harriette, but Lord Worcester was ill with worry, and when they rationalized it Harriette would have only been able to travel as far as Lisbon, and if she was to stay in Lisbon and not see him, she might as well stay in London and not see him. Lord Worcester also admitted she would make a coward of him, because he knew he would not be able to go to war if he feared she were ill or lonely and stuck in Lisbon.

The Marquis of Worcester. 7th Duke of Beaufort. in later life

The Marquis of Worcester. 7th Duke of Beaufort. in later life

So instead they parted under the agreement. ‘but in twelve months from the day I leave you, supposing I am not on my road to join you in England, remember you are to come to me.’

Lord Worcester had asked his father to settle money on Harriette, before he left, a quarterly annuity, but as soon as he was gone, his father sent his bully boy back to agree a single sum, that would ensure Harriette left Lord Worcester alone and for the rest of her life. There is a little more to their story, but I’ll end the post today, with Harriette’s reflections as she writes this piece.

‘being now in the daily habit of meeting this profligate Marquis of Worcester about Paris, with the sister of his late wife, and seeing him look as if he did not even know me by sight, while I often forget, until he has passed, where or when I have seen that man before, the face being familiar, and perhaps the name even forgotten – Oh, by the by! I say to myself, if I meet him a second time in the same morning, now I think of it, that long-nosed, tall man is Worcester.’

Sad to think his complete devotion died so flatly in the end.

Jane Lark is a writer of authentic, passionate and emotional love stories.

See the side bar for details of Jane’s books, and Jane’s website www.janelark.co.uk to learn more about Jane. Or click  ‘like’ on Jane’s Facebook  page to see photo’s and learn historical facts from the Georgian, Regency and Victorian eras, which Jane publishes there. You can also follow Jane on twitter at @janelark