The cost of love – even for a courtesan – is sometimes too high

Harriette_Wilson00I will open my post today in Harriette’s words, ‘Things went on worse and worse at Badminton, (the place of Lord Worcester’s parents’ home) and I was now delighted that they did so, being altogether most miserably tired of the Beaufort story.

So let’s get back to the tale of the demise of Harriette’s and Lord Worcester affair. But as usual here is the quick recap of the history of this series of posts for anyone joining Harriette’s story today, as always, if you’ve read it before skip to the end of italics.

In 1825 Harriette Wilson, a courtesan, published a series of stories as her memoirs in a British broad sheet paper. The Regency gentleman’s clubs were a buzz, waiting to see the next names mentioned each week. While barriers had to be set up outside the shop of her publisher, Stockdale, to hold back the disapproving mob.

Harriette was born Harriette Debochet, she chose the name Harriette Wilson as her professional name, in the same way Emma Hart, who I’ve blogged about previously, had changed her name. Unlike Emma, it isn’t known why or when Harriette changed her name.

She was one of nine surviving children. Her father was a watchmaker and her mother a stocking repairer, and both were believed to be from illegitimate origin.

Three of Harriette’s sisters also became courtesans. Amy, Fanny and Sophia (who I have written about before). So the tales I am about to begin in my blogs will include some elements from their lives too.

For a start you’ll need to understand the world of the 19th Century Courtesan. It was all about show and not just about sex. The idle rich of the upper class aspired to spending time in the company of courtesans, it was fashionable, the thing to do.

You were envied if you were linked to one of the most popular courtesans or you discovered a new unknown beauty to be admired by others.

Courtesans were also part of the competitive nature of the regency period too, gambling was a large element of the life of the idle rich and courtesans were won and lost and bartered and fought for.

So courtesans obviously aspired to be one of the most popular, and to achieve it they learnt how to play music, read widely, so they could debate, and tried to shine in personality too. They wanted to be a favoured ’original’.

The eccentric and outspoken was admired by gentlemen who liked to consort with boxers and jockeys, and coachmen, so courtesans did not aim for placid but were quite happy to insult and mock men who courted them, and demand money for any small favour.

Last week we left Harriette under pressure to relinquish all of Lord Worcester’s love letters, particularly any promising to marry her. Harriette’s answer to this pressure, was to take all his letters to a solicitor. The solicitor’s answer, after reading all the ‘repeated and solemn promises of marriage,’ spanning over two years was to tell Harriette ‘I conceive the damages, if he should now declare off, would be rated, at least twenty-thousand pounds!’ – which was a lot at a time a house could be bought for a hundred pounds or less.

Harriette told Lord Worcester’s father’s bully boy this, and even though he agreed to put an offer to the Duke of Beaufort, Harriette refused to negotiate through him. Instead she wrote to the Duke Beaufort herself and delivered the letter to his town house, by hand. She says she merely gave him the letters back. With and explanation claiming she meant no harm.

But even as she gave those letters back, Harriette tells us Lord Worcester is writing more, and visiting her twice a week in town, or in a village half way between London and Brighton, while his parents, and his mother’s young male friends are still seeking to persuade him to have nothing more to do with her.

Then one day Harriette received a letter that confused her. ‘Such an incoherent scrawl I never had known him, nor anybody else, write before! It was all over wives and angels, and eternal constancy, and eternal despair!!’ She said it was blotched as though he had cried over it, and what it was trying to tell her was that he was being posted abroad as an aide-de-camp to the Duke of Wellington, under the specific request of his father.

Harriette actually says, ‘I knew not, nor would have suspected, how much Worcester’s loss would affect me, until there was no remedy, and my case desperate,’  He’d asked her to go with him, but she said she knew she would not be allowed to go. ‘I burst into a violent flood of tears. It struck me very forcibly, that Worcester deserved all my devoted attachment, and that I had no been half grateful enough to him. That he would lose his life in Spain I felt convinced and that since his regiment remained in England I should have his blood on my head.’

‘After a second flood of tears!! on went the red pelisse and charming white hat, and, in less than half an hour, behold me standing at the Duke of Beaufort’s street door.’

It sounds very unlike the Harriette we’ve been reading about the last few months, either she really did have a conscience buried somewhere inside her, or she finally realised any chance of becoming a future duchess were now nearly written off.

Here’s one key thing I’ve learnt from Harriette’s memoirs though. The door was not answered by a butler, as we all say in our historical romances, it was attended by a porter, she uses this term in several points in her memoirs, I don’t use it in my books, it would just confuse people, but when you think about it, it makes sense the most important male servant would not have stood near the door all day.

Harriette describes how when the porter opens the door to her, he looks at her suspiciously as she has come without a maid or footman, and she says he looked at her as though judging the Duke’s morality, she assumed he wondered if she was about to declare a child by the Duke. He then challenged her asking if she was certain it was the Duke himself she wanted to see. But when she gave him a note, asking the Duke if he’d speak to her, and asked him to take it the Duke, then her eyes flooded with tears, he gave in and agreed to take it.

Harriette feared one or two of the footmen would put her back outside the door as she waited while the Porter handed the letter to another servant to take to the duke.

Harriette was left to wait in the grand hall for a quarter hour, sitting with her handkerchief to her eyes and looking at the floor. But then the Duke came down to the hall himself, and actually apologised for leaving her waiting in the hall. He took her into the dining room to talk and there Harriette says she burst into tears and so he fetched her a chair.

She says she then offered to do all she could to end her affair with Lord Worcester if he would not send his son to war because of her. His answer is that it is too late now to change it, and then he began to lecture her although not sternly, on how she should never have hoped to marry Lord Worcester, saying such unequal marriages seldom worked.

She still claims she had no intention of it. The Duke agreed to shake her hand at the end of the conversation (I feel that might be a little like Jesus turning his left cheek. It had some other meaning. Turning your left cheek was an insult to the person who slapped you not a gesture of submission, perhaps offering her hand was forcing him to treat her more like an equal). He also fetched her a glass of water himself before she left, and walked her to the door, although he called for his porter to open it.

The conclusion was that Lord Worcester was to go to war, and yet he insisted that before he left he was allowed to come to London and spend two full weeks with Harriette, spending the whole of every day with her, despite his mother using her servant who was Lord Worcester’s man servant to do her best to interrupt them. ‘My Lord, Will Haught would say through the key-hole of our bedroom, my lord the Duchess desired me to tell you that she has a great deal of business to settle with you today, about, in short, about all manner of things my Lord.

Very well, that is enough, Will. His Lordship would answer.

In another hour his torment would knock again.

My Lord, Her Grace looked rather displeased this morning. The Duchess was almost in a passion.

You be damned! Go along! Was the elegant reply.

My Lord (in another hour), ‘you see I’m tired of standing in this here room, and the Duchess this morning – I assure you my Lord – your Lordship knows what I mean, Her Grace had got a very particular look in her face; you know my Lord, how she looks when she’s vexed liked, and takes on, you know, my Lord.

Go to hell! Vociferated Worcester, from the emergency of the case although he had by no means the habit of swearing.

I’m going my Lord, answered Will Haught.

I had to share the exchange she recorded, it’s just such a fabulous window into the past.

Anyway, in that two weeks it was all planned for Harriette to go with him, they had even hired a female servant for Harriette, but Lord Worcester was ill with worry, and when they rationalized it Harriette would have only been able to travel as far as Lisbon, and if she was to stay in Lisbon and not see him, she might as well stay in London and not see him. Lord Worcester also admitted she would make a coward of him, because he knew he would not be able to go to war if he feared she were ill or lonely and stuck in Lisbon.

The Marquis of Worcester. 7th Duke of Beaufort. in later life

The Marquis of Worcester. 7th Duke of Beaufort. in later life

So instead they parted under the agreement. ‘but in twelve months from the day I leave you, supposing I am not on my road to join you in England, remember you are to come to me.’

Lord Worcester had asked his father to settle money on Harriette, before he left, a quarterly annuity, but as soon as he was gone, his father sent his bully boy back to agree a single sum, that would ensure Harriette left Lord Worcester alone and for the rest of her life. There is a little more to their story, but I’ll end the post today, with Harriette’s reflections as she writes this piece.

‘being now in the daily habit of meeting this profligate Marquis of Worcester about Paris, with the sister of his late wife, and seeing him look as if he did not even know me by sight, while I often forget, until he has passed, where or when I have seen that man before, the face being familiar, and perhaps the name even forgotten – Oh, by the by! I say to myself, if I meet him a second time in the same morning, now I think of it, that long-nosed, tall man is Worcester.’

Sad to think his complete devotion died so flatly in the end.

Jane Lark is a writer of authentic, passionate and emotional love stories.

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A theatre trip shows up the contrast between a courtesan and a prostitute

Harriette_Wilson00We are going to have a little comma in Harriette’s and Lord Worcester’s story today, as he’s gone off to see his father, and she is in London alone.  So, on her own again, but still under the promise of fidelity to Lord Worcester, Harriette visits the theatre with a friend and gives us a rare insight into the difference of the world of a courtesan and the world of a prostitute.

But before I tell Harriette’s story of today let me recap on the history of this series of posts for anyone reading them for the first time, if you’ve already read this, as usual, skip to the end of the italics.

In 1825 Harriette Wilson, a courtesan, published a series of stories as her memoirs in a British broad sheet paper. The Regency gentleman’s clubs were a buzz, waiting to see the next names mentioned each week. While barriers had to be set up outside the shop of her publisher, Stockdale, to hold back the disapproving mob.

Harriette was born Harriette Debochet, she chose the name Harriette Wilson as her professional name, in the same way Emma Hart, who I’ve blogged about previously, had changed her name. Unlike Emma, it isn’t known why or when Harriette changed her name.

She was one of nine surviving children. Her father was a watchmaker and her mother a stocking repairer, and both were believed to be from illegitimate origin.

Three of Harriette’s sisters also became courtesans. Amy, Fanny and Sophia (who I have written about before). So the tales I am about to begin in my blogs will include some elements from their lives too.

For a start you’ll need to understand the world of the 19th Century Courtesan. It was all about show and not just about sex. The idle rich of the upper class aspired to spending time in the company of courtesans, it was fashionable, the thing to do.

You were envied if you were linked to one of the most popular courtesans or you discovered a new unknown beauty to be admired by others.

Courtesans were also part of the competitive nature of the regency period too, gambling was a large element of the life of the idle rich and courtesans were won and lost and bartered and fought for.

So courtesans obviously aspired to be one of the most popular, and to achieve it they learnt how to play music, read widely, so they could debate, and tried to shine in personality too. They wanted to be a favoured ’original’.

The eccentric and outspoken was admired by gentlemen who liked to consort with boxers and jockeys, and coachmen, so courtesans did not aim for placid but were quite happy to insult and mock men who courted them, and demand money for any small favour.

It was not one of Harriette’s – fast – friends, other courtesans, but what Harriette terms a prudish friend who she went to the theatre with regularly. I picture this as a moment Harriette took off work. Most of her life she spent on show, being a larger than life figure to capture the interest of men, trying to be the prettiest and the wittiest. So, perhaps these nights out with a ‘prudish’ friend were escapism. They did not sit in a box, so they were not seeking to draw attention to themselves. They went dressed in blacks, and sat on the benches in one of the balconies, purely to enjoy the play.

Of course though, Harriette being Harriette, could go nowhere unnoticed. She speaks of several men watching her during the play, and her friend complaining that, wherever she went, why and how did she draw so much male attention.

There was one young man who watched Harriette, who she believed she recognized, because he had the look of his brothers, a Stanhope.

Of course while they watched the play and everyone was in their seat on the benches the fact that men ogled her was only an irritation to her friend. Harriette admits she didn’t care, she was flattered. But the problem came when the performance had ended…

Harriette tells us how she and her friend got lost in the theatre and ended up following others to find a way out, all the time sensing the young Lord she’d recognized from his family appearance following her. But they went the wrong way and found themselves in a room full of men, but not the sort of men Harriette usually entertained the interests of – these were no gentlemen.

The difference between being a courtesan and a prostitute was that the gentlemen Harriette traded with treated her as they would their wives, sisters or mothers, apart from one obvious difference in that they had a physical relationship, for which they paid. But the men she discovered in the lobby were of a lower class, a class who treated whores as whores. There was no kindness or building of a relationship. When a man hired a prostitute it was just a transaction exchanging money for the act with no need to charm.

There were two forms of high-society in the early 1800s. The beau monde – those who were deemed the elite in society, the aristocracy mainly, and the demimonde , who contained members of the men from beau monde and their favoured courtesans, but excluded any baser relationships with prostitutes. The demimonde lived in their style of elite society and had just as many rules about what was and was not done. The behaviour Harriette encountered in the lobby they ‘d stumbled into was not the sort of behaviour she was used to. If she attended the theatre alone, or with any of her male friends, she was just as much above this class, as the aristocracy.

Her friend’s bonnet was lifted as she was asked if she was ‘the bawd.’ Then asked what she’d ask ‘for the pretty black-eyed girl.’ While the man who asked the question touched Harriette indecently. Harriette says ‘I resisted these disgusting liberties with all the strength of my little hands, they only fell into roars of laughter.’

When Harriette’s prudish friend said, ‘Are there no constables here?’  The men in the lobby only insulted them more.

One walked over to the constable at the door, telling him ‘I say, my boy, that woman insists on having you to go home and sleep with her; but she is perfectly welcome, so that she leaves me her daughter.’ Then this man tried to pull Harriette away with him.

Harriette describes herself as angry, but that there are tears in her eyes, and that she was shaking and blushing, implying she was totally out of her depth.  Over hearing the prostitutes that probably were in the lobby, although she only describes them as women, she speaks of them using language that made hers and her friend’s ‘blood run cold’ and says that with each step they were subjected to ‘fresh insult of the grossest and most disgusting nature.’

All the time the young Stanhope was following them, but at a distance, and Harriette prayed he’d come forward and protect them. It took a man to try to slip his hand into her bodice to finally bring the young lord forward. Harriette said she knew him, and he confirmed himself to be the brother of the Stanhopes she was acquainted with, and begged him to escort them to a Hackney Carriage.

He in fact escorted her all the way home, and took her to the theatre on several nights after this, considering himself infatuated with Harriette. Well that was until Harriette’s sister, Amy, spotted the competition and of course won him for herself, disappearing off to a country inn with him for an affair that lasted a week. Bless Amy, forever the jealous schemer.

Next week back to Harriette and Worcester…

Jane Lark is a writer of authentic, passionate and emotional love stories.

See the side bar for details of Jane’s books, and Jane’s website www.janelark.co.uk to learn more about Jane. Or click  ‘like’ on Jane’s Facebook  page to see photo’s and learn historical facts from the Georgian, Regency and Victorian eras, which Jane publishes there. You can also follow Jane on twitter at @janelark