Harriette Wilson does, what a courtesan should never do, she falls in love

Harriette_Wilson00For weeks now Harriette Wilson has recorded in her memoirs that she is obsessed with one gentleman she’s never spoken to. Yet they’ve shared looks, and followed each other, silently playing a game of interest and admiration.

After Lord Ponsonby’s long absence from town, when Harriette saw him passing her home and glancing into her drawing room window, can you imagine her heart palpitations. Her friends do not leave fast enough, and then she cannot sleep that night.

When she rings for her maid in the morning, she is tired, and yet still full of that inexplicable excitement engendered by a strong attraction.

This excitement only climbs when a letter arrives.

I have long been very desirous to make your acquaintance: will you let me? A friend of mine has told me something about you; but I am afraid you were then only laughing at me; ‘et il sepeut, qu’un home passe, ne sait bon, que pour cela!’ I hope, at all events, that you will write me one line, to say you forgive me, and direct it to my house in town.  P.

From Lord Ponsonby. Harriette was delirious with joy, and desperate with anticipation. Last week I spoke about Harriette’s comments about the wives of the men she had intrigues (affairs) with. And here again we get a hint of remorse, as she wrote these memoirs in hindsight, and she speaks of not being able to explain her thoughtlessness, as she buried any concern for the fate of Lord Ponsonby’s beautiful, innocent wife, and lets her thoughts race with desire. She admits, it was a heart bound infatuation.

So let me quickly recap on the history of this blog, before I go on, for anyone joining my blog today. As usual if you have already read this, please continue reading after the italics, from where I have highlighted the text in bold letters.

In 1825 Harriette Wilson, a courtesan, published a series of stories as her memoirs in a British broad sheet paper. The Regency gentleman’s clubs were a buzz, waiting to see the next names mentioned each week. While barriers had to be set up outside the shop of her publisher, Stockdale, to hold back the disapproving mob.

Harriette was born Harriette Debochet, she chose the name Harriette Wilson as her professional name, in the same way Emma Hart, who I’ve blogged about previously, had changed her name. Unlike Emma, it isn’t known why or when Harriette changed her name.

She was one of nine surviving children. Her father was a watchmaker and her mother a stocking repairer, and both were believed to be from illegitimate origin.

Three of Harriette’s sisters also became courtesans. Amy, Fanny and Sophia (who I have written about before). So the tales I am about to begin in my blogs will include some elements from their lives too.

For a start you’ll need to understand the world of the 19th Century Courtesan. It was all about show and not just about sex. The idle rich of the upper class aspired to spending time in the company of courtesans, it was fashionable, the thing to do.

You were envied if you were linked to one of the most popular courtesans or you discovered a new unknown beauty to be admired by others.

Courtesans were also part of the competitive nature of the regency period too, gambling was a large element of the life of the idle rich and courtesans were won and lost and bartered and fought for.

So courtesans obviously aspired to be one of the most popular, and to achieve it they learnt how to play music, read widely, so they could debate, and tried to shine in personality too. They wanted to be a favoured ’original’.

The eccentric and outspoken was admired by gentlemen who liked to consort with boxers and jockeys, and coachmen, so courtesans did not aim for placid but were quite happy to insult and mock men who courted them, and demand money for any small favour.

Harriette ends her declaration of future regrets, by saying,I should have stopped there, and then what pain and bitter anguish I had been spared; but I declare to my reader, that Lady Fanny Ponsonby, never entered my head. 

I had seen little or nothing of the world, I never possessed a really wise friend, to set me right, advise or admonish me. My mother had always ever seemed happiest in my father’s absence, nor did she vex or trouble herself to watch his steps; and I did not know, or at all events, I did not think, my making Lord Ponsonby’s acquaintance would be likely to injure any one of my fellow-creatures; or I am sure such reflection must have embittered that pure state of happiness I now enjoyed.

So, having admitted she thought only of herself, and that she was overflowing with obsession and adoration for this man, Harriette replied,

For the last five months I have scarcely lived but in your sight, and everything I have done or wished, or hoped, or thought about, has had a reference to you and your happiness. Now tell me what you wish.

If you have read my earlier blogs on Harriette, you can hear the difference in her words being whispered from the page. It is clear she thinks very differently of Lord Ponsonby than any other man. All her other letters have been brisk, and witty, and held men at a distance, tempting them to try harder to win her favour.  This immediately lays her feelings bare. She isn’t playing games with Lord Ponsonby, she is willing to accept him on his terms, on any terms, just to have him as her lover.

His reply,

I fancy, though we never met, that you and I are, in fact, acquainted, and understand each other perfectly. If I did not affect to disbelieve you, you will not say I am vain; and, when I tell you that we cannot meet immediately, owing to a very sever domestic calamity, you will not say I am cold. In the meantime, will you write to me?

Lord Ponsonby, explains his domestic calamity, saying his father is on his death bed, and has been ill for five months, and is so reliant on his son, that Lord Ponsonby declares the small watch he has sent Harriette as a gift, is unworthy, but states he could not find a worthy one because his father counts the minutes he is absent from the bedside.

So Harriette must continue waiting. But immediately she understood his solitary rides, with his dog, his paleness, and his melancholy expression of countenance. It was this state of his appearance which had drawn Harriette to him.

She learned from his letters, that the night she had seen him at the opera some weeks before, his father had recovered for a short period, only to then become worse.

Harriette states that her happiness, while this correspondence went on, was ‘the purest.’

And then, at last, he writes and asks to meet her, calling her, ‘his dearest’, and admitting he is so very exhausted, but his father is now scarcely aware of his presence, and so he will ask his brother George to take over, and come to meet her at nine.

Harriette went into panic. It would be the first time they had met close too. She speaks of fearing looking into his bright eyes, she feared she was dreaming, she feared he might die before she met him.

When she describes her feelings, I remember when I fell in love with this intensity. When it was an uncontrollable obsession, that seemed to take me over and have a life of it’s own. I can here this feeling in Harriette’s words. I can feel her heart racing, and her skin sweating, and the emotion racing in her blood which would make it impossible to stay still as she waited. See, again, one of the abiding themes of my blogs. The life about people was different when we look back in time, but feelings and thoughts, were the same.

She hears his footsteps on the stairs to her room, and then she sees him.

It was the fashion for pale skin, in the 1800s, and the most desired state was for a man’s skin, was to be a translucent grey. It was said that Lord Byron used to starve himself to try to obtain this pallor. Lord Ponsonby had this colouring. Harriette speaks of his expressive mouth, and a slight blush in his cheeks, and then she cries, overwhelmed to face him at last.

My dear, dear little Harriette.” Lord Ponsonby draws her to him, with his arm about her waist. “Let us be happy now we are met.”

John Ponsonby, 4th Earl of Bessborough

John Ponsonby, 4th Earl of Bessborough

I do not think Lord Ponsonby a player either, as Lord Lorne, Harriette’s last real interest had been, unless perhaps he was extremely good at pretending heartfelt feeling.

Harriette says on this first occasion they just talked, all night, and it was as if they had known each other forever. And she says, she sat beside him with her head resting on his chest as they spoke.

He told her that while she had been afflicted with a desire for him for the last few months, his own adoration had run for two years. He had seen her when she lived with Frederick Lamb, and had watched her in the days she was under the protection of Lord Lorne. He speaks of her coming out at the opera, and then becoming notorious, and him trying to forget about her, because she had become someone everyone desired and he was no longer certain he wished to know her. But then he had seen her in the park, and again been attracted to the young vibrant, unusual woman, who walked alone and gave money to the poor.

Yes she admits to longing for a kiss, but says he did not kiss her, but said, “No, not tonight! I could no bear your kiss tonight. We will dream about it until tomorrow.”

They make declarations of love, ‘neither in doubt of the others affection,’ Harriette said. Then Harriette talks of having wished to keep her love from her memoirs, to hold it as her secret, suggesting again that it was something very precious and real, but her editor insisted this story must be included, or otherwise the memoirs would not be published.

I’m glad she put it in. It gives a far greater insight into the life of a courtesan… To capture a real understanding of her feelings…

Well, I’ll continue the story of Harriette’s love affair, next week…

Jane Lark is a writer of authentic, passionate and emotional love stories.

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Fascinating Historic Graffiti at Fountains Abbey, Helmsley Castle and Sudeley Castle

People who have read my blogs for a while know I have two slightly eccentric passions for history. One’s old trees – definitely a bit of a mad obsession – and the other is graffiti.

Fountains Abbey Leisure Gardens

I think it’s my imagination which gets me going over these things because when I see trees I am thinking who walked past this, when, or leant against it or – I mean hundreds of people for hundreds of years could have had something happen in their lives near the tree and my head tries to get into their lives and picture what they were thinking, feeling and doing at the time. It’s very odd because of course it’s the same with houses, even more so, but my imagination is more intoxicated by trees and my other passion graffiti, than houses – odd I know.

The Tudor Mansion at Helmsley

But today anyway this little cheeky blog is on my other passion – for graffiti – I mean just think who was it who stood there and carved it out, what was going on in their lives, in their head? Were they laughing? Were they with a partner, or a friend, joking? Had they just had a tryst? Were they serious and thoughtful and seeking solitude? Angry? Contemplative? Afraid?

Sudeley Tudor Castle

I’ve said before the graffiti in The Tower of London is my favourite. Most of it dates from King Henry VIII or Queen Elizabeth I’s time when they would shut noblemen and women away for months in the tower rooms rather than in the dungeons. But I discovered loads more on holiday in Yorkshire this year (where some of the scene’s from my debut novel, Illicit Love are set)

Fountains Abbey Medieval Mill

So first there was this which I discovered at Fountains Abbey in the medieval mill – although the graffiti dates to the 1700 and 1800s not medieval times. A lot of 18th and 19th century graffiti is by tourists as it was fashionable for the more wealthy middle classes and the senior classes to idle away a day by riding out and exploring ruins. But on this door in the mill which the National Trust have preserved, are carved names they believe were workers. The fabulous leisure gardens which did bring many visitors at the time are beyond a gate from here so it’s believed it was not tourists.

Fountains Abbey graffiti from the 1800s

Fountains Abbey graffiti from the 1700s

Fountains Abbey graffiti from the 1700s

There is also another area of graffiti in the mill on a window frame.

Helmsley Castle Gatehouse

Then I found this even more exciting graffiti at Helmsley Castle. I love the town of Helmsley. The medieval castle, which was updated with a Tudor mansion in Queen Elizabeth I’s reign, is on the edge of the town it’s owned by English Heritage and like many castles is only a ruin thanks to the Civil War. In 1644 Helmsley Castle was besieged by 700 men on foot and 300 men on horseback and the siege lasted for 3 months. However at the end of the siege the Parliamentarian army let the 200 strong Royalist Garrison encamped at Helmsley leave peaceable through the gatehouse in a procession. They had been starved out and their defence of the castle had earned the respect of the Parliamentarians. So interesting then to see this graffiti dating to the 1600’s on the walls of the gatehouse.

Helmsley Castle graffiti from the 1600s

Helmsley Castle Graffiti from the 1600s

Helmsley Castle Graffiti from the 1600s

There are some 19th century tourist’s marks too. They were probably cut by friends of the family from Duncombe Park who owned the land Helmsley Castle was on then and who’d made the castle ruins a folly for them to view in the garden of their fashionable early 18th century mansion, or perhaps they were just people from the nearby town – some land owners allowed locals in their parks and one of the Duncombe family married a lower class woman he saw while out riding, having then spoken to her parents and sent her to school to learn how to be a lady.

Helmsley Castle graffiti from 1800s

Perhaps – perhaps – perhaps – it’s all imagination engendered by a few marks on a wall.

Oh and I might as well slip these in while I’m talking of graffiti – not from Yorkshire but from Sudeley Castle which was also ruined in the Civil War. Sudeley Castle was partly restored though and while half the castle is a ruin the other half is lived in. Actually Sudelely is another place I’ve drawn inspiration from for scenes in my debut novel – Mmm there’s a pattern forming here.

Sudeley Castle Graffiti from the 1800s

Sudeley Castle Graffiti from the 1800s

Sudeley Castle Graffiti from the 1700s

More Historic Graffiti from Sudeley Castle

More Historic Graffiti from Sudeley Castle

More Historic Graffiti from Sudeley Castle


Jane Lark is a writer of authentic, passionate and emotional love stories.

See the side bar for details of Jane’s books, and Jane’s website www.janelark.co.uk to learn more about Jane. Or click  ‘like’ on Jane’s Facebook  page to see photo’s and learn historical facts from the Georgian, Regency and Victorian eras, which Jane publishes there. You can also follow Jane on twitter at @janelark